I do not own the rights to any of the photos/videos/"whatever" I post, unless otherwise stated. NSFW - which is apparent within the URL. My vices have essentially become my virtues. As a flagrant overindulger, I believe everything is best in moderation - especially moderation.
This is what love is.
Love is a feeling, no doubt. But its much more than just how that person makes you feel. It is an action, a lifestyle, if you will. A choice to put that other persons needs and happiness and well being ahead of ones own needs. Of course there is the hope those same things are returned, but it is not required in order to love or be in love with someone.
Very wisely said, my friend.
Drinking Big Daddy in honor of my Big Daddy.
I’m happy to hear that you’re considering self-improvement over self-destruction. I went through a really rough few weeks in which I was out drinking, doing cocaine, and partying almost every day & night, it was horrible. I reached a breaking point where I realized that this is way no way to treat myself. I wasn’t filling the void, just creating a new one. The answer is never at the bottom of the bottle. Grieving is a healthy and necessary part of the process of moving on.
As far as hooking up with a new guy right away, I don’t see that as the right answer either. You shouldn’t be treating this as a race to see who can move on first, there is nothing respectable about being with someone out of spite. Learn to be alone, learn to be by yourself. Create happiness within and find someone who can enhance this preexisting happiness as opposed to relying on outside sources to fulfill it entirely. Once you’re able to recognize the satisfaction and appeal of independence, other people will notice it too and be even more drawn to you.
The thing that fucked me up the most was the fact that it was my first love, my first boyfriend. I was wary in giving myself to him entirely, I felt like everything had an expiration date, so what’s the point? Although this breakup reaffirmed all of my fears, I still took a chance and something really beautiful happened. Now I know that it is okay to revel in sadness; in fact, it’s good. It’s good to feel anything at all - be it love, hate, anger, or depression. Boredom and apathy and indifference are the things you should fear.
I’m still working on getting my ass back on track, it isn’t going to happen right away but I won’t give up now. I have been doing bikram and eating right for a few weeks and people are noticing. My coworkers tell me that I’m “glowing”, that I don’t look “tired” anymore.
Work on yourself, focus on being the absolute best version of you that there is. Get out there and show him what he’s missing.
THANK. YOU.
Hmph.
Hellooooooooo…
Me, this week.
Ugh.
A Self-Portrait of Opportunity
I want you to stop and think about something. This is a picture of another planet. Where this robot is. Right now.
As we sit here on Earth in this or any moment, we each have in our heads a flurry of worries and questions and ideas. And most of them pertain to our own lives. That’s okay, it’s human nature. We are each the center of our own universe.
I often think about this in crowded places, like while in traffic, as the place I’m going is far more important than the place all of these other people are going. I’m convinced that they feel the same way. And so we sit.
But that means that there are seven billion mental universes walking around on this planet. We are staring into them through little digital windows that we carry in our hands, and certain that this decision is the most important decision. Everything that is happening is happening to us.
Yet for the past eight years, there has been a dusty, six-wheeled rover crawling around the surface of Mars, completely alone. Incidentally, that rover has exceeded its expected mission of 90 days by thirty-two times over. That’s admirable, and I can’t help but personify the little guy. Like a sort of scrappy, diligent explorer, quietly working hard for the benefit of someone else. “No complaints, boss!” Like Johnny 5 meets Wall-E.
And so we get images like this, reminding us that every day we can look beyond our personal universe. What a thought! Look at how much is out there. Think of what else we could see! Let’s go.
Peanut butter banana sushi, mmmm.
1. Keep the Calories Up. Whether you prefer to eat three meals or six meals per day is up to you. What really matters is eating enough calories throughout the day to keep your metabolism fired up and provide you enough energy for the day. Believe it or not, eating more works!
2. Drop the Bubbly. Don’t be fooled by diet sodas; they, too, can wreak havoc on your waistline. Keep diet sodas to a minimum, while ditching the real stuff altogether. The carbonation in soda can cause water retention and bloat— something us women could do without!
3. Get More Protein. Studies show that diets high in protein result in more fat loss and lean bodyweight retention than diets low in protein. Protein builds muscle, burns fat and keeps us feeling fuller longer.
4. Swap Butter for Olive Oil. Cooking with olive oil instead of butter will lower your intake of unhealthy fats and increase your intake of mono- and polyunsaturated fatty acids that are known to boost metabolism and fat loss. Added bonus— shiny, silky hair to die for!
5. Become a Fat-loving Freak. The rumor is true— eat fat to burn fat. Add a sliver of avocado to your sandwich or a small handful of nuts to your oatmeal and you’ll increase your fat-burning potential.
6. Get Your Green Tea. Catechins in green tea have been found in research to increase metabolic rate and decrease appetite as well as reduce belly fat. Drink a cup of hot green tea after each meal to promote digestion and boost metabolism. P.S.— Black coffee works too!
7. Go Nuts. Hungry? Munch on nuts to prevent hunger and lose more fat. Just don’t eat too many. Stick to a 1-ounce serving a few times per day.
8. Meals by Numbers. Instead of sticking to breakfast, lunch and dinner, try eating five or six small meals per day. At this point, they now become Meal #1, Meal #2, and so forth. It’s not the time at which you eat that is important; it’s eating every two to three hours to keep your metabolism on fire that you want to pay attention to.
9. Grapefruits: Natures’ Sweetest Sour Fruit. The low-glycemic properties of grapefruits make them an excellent carbohydrate source any time of the day. They are also believed to help in the metabolism of fatty acids in the bloodstream. For a delicious fat-blasting addition, try eating a quarter of a grapefruit with your breakfast or lunch.
10. Don’t Over-scoop. It’s important to measure portions accurately. If you’re sticking to a meal plan that requires 1 level scoop of protein powder, don’t scoop a heaping scoop of protein powder. Doing this over time adds up to excess calories that your body doesn’t need. And if you want to reach your goals, going over your numbers is not going to help you get there.
11. Treat, Don’t Cheat. Allowing yourself one or two treat meals each week will keep your mind sane and your body burning fat. You won’t cause harm as long as you stick to your diet for all other meals of the week.
12. Fresh is Better than Dried. Dried fruits are delicious, but the fresh version is more filling and less sugar-dense. Instead of three dried strawberries, have three fresh ones and enjoy far fewer calories in a larger bite.
13. Eat Smart. Carbs are essential nutrients in your diet. It’s not a good idea to skip them altogether. Choose the right carbs to fuel your body— carbs low on the glycemic scale will provide sustained energy and won’t be stored as fat. Try sticking with whole grains, oats, sweet potatoes, apples, blueberries, grapefruits, quinoa and other brown options.
14. Don’t Miss a Meal. It’s not OK to skip a meal. Your body is expecting fuel every few hours and that’s what it needs to keep your metabolism revving. If you forget your lunch tote or lose track of time, your metabolism will slow down to make up for the fuel it’s lacking.
15. Eat Before Bed. Your last meal of the day should be within an hour of going to bed; that way you’re providing nutrients for your hard-earned muscle throughout the night. Put together meals consisting of healthy fats, lean proteins and green veggies. A great option is a veggie omelet or cottage cheese with some almonds or natural peanut butter.
And thus began my infatuation with Paul Rudd. Thank you, Clueless.